Based on my experience, I would guess that the majority of LDS women under age 65 would say that polygamy is NOT an eternal principle and that it doesn’t require any earthly worrying as a result. While the men are probably not worrying about it (although any of them who are married to me should think twice about expecting additional wives in the future), my impression is that a higher percentage of them believe it is an eternal principle that will be practiced long term.
Are the men in the church far more polygamy-neutral in their views than the women? If so, it probably depends on how much they buy into the idea of traditional patriarchy (in which the man demands a hot dinner on the table nightly in Fred Flintstone fashion). Most LDS husbands are fairly progressive in my experience, changing diapers and being nurturing, considering themselves equal caregivers to their children. Even so, my guess is that many LDS men figure it could be polygamous later or not and that if not, cool, and if so, bonus! In which case, I kind of want to kick their teeth in. No offense.
To bolster this assumption, men who are consecutively monogamous in their lifetime may be sealed to more than one spouse while women who are consecutively monogamous are not sealed to more than one spouse. Is that evidence that there will be polygamy in the eternities, or simply that leaders used to believe that, and the church is slow to change? My guess is that we are simply slow to change, and that barring a mandate from Heaven, most of the leaders assume (perhaps rightly) that it will all be worked out in the end.
Ray has elsewhere shared his heterodox view that relationships in the eternities will be non-sexual and possibly polyandrous. That sounds a little like the Greek Gods minus the sex. I’m neither convinced nor dismissive of this notion, and so I include it as an interesting theory.
But still, I wonder what the rest of you think will be the case in the eternities.
Isn’t it weird that this kind of thing even crosses our minds? So, am I correct in thinking that men are less repulsed by the idea of eternal futuristic polygamy? How would men feel if it were polyandry instead of polygamy?