The cover of the March 2014 Ensign highlights an article, “The Lord’s Standard of Morality” by Elder Tad R. Callister, that has been the subject of much Internet talk of late, with most voices recognizing the importance of the subject and good desires of the author and those who chose to publish it but expressing concern that some of its messaging might be more harmful than helpful for youth negotiating the important transition from childhood to adulthood, including sexuality.
In this episode, two therapists, Natasha Helfer Parker and Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, who both work closely with Latter-day Saints struggling through issues often related to negative ideas they picked up during their formative years, join Mormon Matters host Dan Wotherspoon for an illuminating dialogue about modesty and sexuality (especially patriarchal assumptions and views of women) and how messages designed to protect women can instead increase the very devaluation and objectification they seek to mitigate. They also share ideas for healthy messaging that might comfortably fit in LDS Sunday and Young Women/Young Men curricula.
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Elder Tad R. Callister, “The Lord’s Standard of Morality,” Ensign, March 2014
Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, “Moderating the Mormon Discourse on Modesty,” Exponent II, Winter 2014 (links to entire issue, with her article beginning on page 10)
Natasha Helfer Parker, “Morality? We Can Do Much Better than This . . .” Mormon Therapist (blog), 15 Feb 2014
Jana Riess, “Especially For Young Mormon Men,” Flunking Sainthood (blog), 20 February 2014
Peggy Fletcher Stack, “Does Mormon Modesty Mantra Reduce Women to Sex Objects?” Salt Lake Tribune, 28 February 2014
Becca A Moore, “Modest is Not Hottest,” The Life and Times of an Excessively Tall Mormon (blog), 15 February 2014
Mrs Hall, “FYI (if you’re a teenage girl)” Given Breath (blog), 3 September 2013
Natasha Helfer Parker and Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, “LDS Female Sexuality,” Mormon Stories Podcast, Episodes 214-216
Natasha Helfer Parker, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, John Dehlin, “How to Have Better Sex in Your Mormon Marriage,” Mormon Stories Podcast, Episode 280.