A guest post by our friend Ray:
The Bible Dictionary defines “repentance” as: “a change of mind, i.e., a fresh view about God, about oneself, and about the world”. It goes to say, “Since we are born into conditions of mortality, repentance comes to mean a turning of the heart and will to God, and a renunciation of sin to which we are naturally inclined.” That is absolutely fascinating, since it describes repentance without mentioning any particular “process” at all. It leaves it simply as the turning of our heart and will to God. In that light, I submit the following:
Being poor in spirit is, essentially, recognizing one’s dependence on God and turning to Him in true humility — knowing that He provides not what we deserve (justice) but what He desires to give as a reward for our effort (mercy). “Perfection” is defined as being “complete, whole, fully developed”. (Matthew 5:48 – Footnote “b”) Therefore, being “imperfect” means being “incomplete, part, partially developed” — being, to some degree, an unfinished work — a “natural (wo)man”. This leads to an interesting meaning of repentance that is radically different than what was taught in ancient Israel (the Law of Moses perspective), with its emphasis on the Law (works).
The “classic” definition of repentance can be summarized in the following way: “feel sorry for your mistakes and stop making them”. It is, in a very real way, a process of surgery — attempting to cut out and discard the “bad” from within us, so that we will stop making mistakes. This can be incredibly destructive for three reasons:
- It can confuse “sin” (things we choose to do, knowing we should not) with “transgression” (mistakes or violations of a law that are not intentional actions, often through ignorance) — which means that people can spend enormous time and energy beating themselves up about and trying to rid themselves of weaknesses that often are beyond their control without outside help — things that have been paid for already by the Atonement (see 2nd Article of Faith);
- it assumes that we are competent surgeons (which deserves an entire thread all by itself);
- it takes one’s focus away from the powerful nature of true repentance (the changing of one’s mind and view, which changes one’s very nature, which changes one’s actions) — a process that is outlined clearly in the life and words of Jesus.
I need to step back at this point and emphasize a critical point: Repentance *is* a process of change that involves ridding ourselves of those tendencies that keep us from being Christ-like. It *does* include gaining control over those things that cause our transgressions. However, it does not need to be a guilt-inducing, depression-causing, overwhelming chore. That happens when repentance is viewed as the companion to the type of Mosaic perfection that means being “mistake-free” — when repentance comes to mean eliminating mistakes and walking completely in lock-step with a detailed list of do’s and dont’s without ever stumbling. That type of repentance is impossible and debilitating.
Let me emphasize again that “repentance” means changing one’s *view* about God, oneself and the world. It means *seeing* the process differently — I would argue in the empowering way taught by Jesus Himself in the Sermon on the Mount.
To illustrate what I mean, consider again that the admonition in Matthew 5:48 to be perfect means to be whole, complete and fully developed, but also consider that it comes at the end of a chapter that lists specific attributes and actions — and that the admonition itself begins with the word “therefore”. What does this mean? It means “because of what has come before” — or “through what has come before”. In that light, Matthew 5:48 says:
“Be ye (through what I have said so far) complete, whole, fully developed, even as your Father which is in heaven is complete, whole, fully developed.”
This changes the entire focus of repentance — since it says that reconciling to God is a process of acquiring the characteristics listed by Jesus as leading to perfection — adding them to your character — NOT cutting out pieces of yourself and assuming the holes will be filled somehow. It means repentance is the process of closing the gap between what we are naturally (incomplete, part, partially developed) and what He has commanded us to become (complete, whole, fully developed). It is a process of addition (becoming more) — not subtraction (becoming less). It is a process of acquisition, not elimination.
Think of a bucket full of liquid that is, to some degree, impure. The goal is to make the liquid in the bucket pure. You could attempt to do so by identifying the impurities and trying to remove them with just the use of your hands while not removing the pure liquid. Such an attempt would be frustrating, to say the least. The other option is to allow an expert chemist to add pure liquid to your bucket that will isolate the impurities and force them to spill from the bucket — replaced by the liquid that was added. Each is an effort to change the composition within the bucket, but the first is destined to produce frustration and heartache, while the other heals and fills and never depletes.
To make this practical:
If you struggle with a temper that manifests itself through yelling at your kids, you can try to “overcome” this tendency in one of two ways. You can take the classic approach and exert tremendous effort to recognize when you are about to lose it and, in that moment, exert even more effort to control that tendency by suppressing it — assuming that if you suppress it often enough you will gain total control over it. The problem is that the temper has not been eliminated; it simply has been suppressed, which means it still is there. When that effort to suppress fails and the temper flares again, you feel like a failure, since your effort couldn’t stop the outburst.
On the other hand, with a different VIEW, you can look more deeply than just at the manifestation (your temper) and focus on the cure (becoming poor in spirit) in ALL aspects of your life. You can focus on developing the character trait that Jesus has identified as part of becoming perfect (in this case, being poor in spirit) and allow Him to help you rid yourself of the underlying cause of the action. You repent by giving Him your burden (a temper) and agreeing to carry his yoke instead (walking humbly with Him). You repent by giving Him your heart and letting Him change your actions. You repent by forgetting about what you want to do and accepting what He wants you to do. You repent by ceasing to try to lessen who you are (eliminate part of yourself) and allowing Him to increase who you are (add perfecting characteristics). In short, you repent by “losing (your view of) yourself” and “finding (His view of) yourself”.
This is not just theoretical. I have been pursuing this as a New Year’s Resolution, and it has been an amazing experience thus far. (This month, I am working on being more merciful.)