I have been thinking of a friend’s sister recently. She methodically broke every chair, save one, in her parent’s house. She was very large, felt entitled to (a) sit in unbroken chairs and (b) not sit in the reinforced “fat” chair. So, without any malice, but in accord with her feelings of entitlement and self fulfillment, she broke all the furniture, without apologies.
Too often it seems that we do something similar, in search of our own fulfillment (as we define it). We not only fail to endure well, we do not endure at all.
Think about that the next time you feel a need to be publicly critical. What are you really doing?
That said, you be the bishop.
You have a BYU ward and your counselors have not gotten things off to a good start. The get together “meet the bishop” home evenings flopped. No refreshments, no lessons, no active socializing by those in charge and the kids did not fill the gap on their own initiative.
Now, the older sister assigned to help out and provide shadow leadership for the Relief Society just finished a psychotic rant. She took over the meeting and told the girls that merely dressing in accord with the BYU standards and honor code meant they were shameless sluts who could expect to be sexually harassed and assaulted as a result, and when that happened, it would be their fault, not the fault of the boys involved.
When one of the girls disagreed with her, the sister called her an apostate and when the girl quoted prophets and apostles, the older lady silenced her by screaming over her with the comment that the girl was a lying child of hell.
So, what do you do?
- Nothing. It is a BYU ward, better just ignore this just like you ignore everything else until the kids change apartments and get into a different ward.
- Nothing, it is a Relief Society matter and they will work it out.
- Nothing, the sister is really right and the honor code is an inadequate sham for the morally lax.
- Nothing, ignore it and it will go away.
- Ask for advice on the internet. Then disagree with whatever advice you get.
Seriously, if you encountered that bishop, what advice would you give him, other than telling him how to break a few more chairs?