Today’s post is by Wade Nelson. Apart from a brother who has been inactive for many years, I come from a family whose members have been active and faithful their entire lives. I am something of an oddity (read: black sheep) with my concern and interest in the intellectual side of the gospel.
My siblings evince little if any interest in the things that matter to me about the church. Over the holidays I spoke to one sister about the Delbert Stapley letter to George Romney. While she was not hostile, she believed that his attitude was common for people of his generation. That may be true enough but I doubt that few Americans or members for that matter believed that those who promoted the cause of blacks in America should have feared for their lives.
I would be interested in knowing how others have dealt with their families’ concerns if indeed those concerns exist at all. Have they hidden their interests? Have they ever opened up and expressed any doubts publicly? Or is family treated the way the Stake president is? I.e. only say what you are expected to say.
Given the variety of our backgrounds and families there must be a plethora of stories and ideas. While we are all adults responsible for our own salvation and actions. I can’t help but think that we must at the same time be sensitive to how our parents feel about us and how our actions reflect on them. I would be loath to become the Steve Benson of my family.
While my family is well aware of my inclinations and interests, everyone is trying hard to be careful. I know this all sounds terribly delicate and that I am in the habit of dissembling in front of my family. I am new here and so am unsure about the context.